
Facing an unplanned pregnancy can be overwhelming, especially when friends are urging you to make a decision you’re not ready to make. While it’s natural to seek advice from those closest to you, it’s important to remember that this is your life and your decision.
You may feel conflicted—on the one hand, you want to please those around you; on the other, you know deep down that you’re not ready for an abortion. Feeling unsure or hesitant is entirely valid. Choosing to pause and explore all your options is not only wise but also empowering.
Continue reading to learn more about what you can do in this situation.
Why Are My Friends Telling Me to Abort?
Friends often give advice based on their own experiences or beliefs, but they aren’t the ones living with the long-term effects of this decision. They may think they are just looking out for you. However, this is a decision only you can make.
Friends might worry about the financial, emotional, or social impact of parenting or carrying a pregnancy to term. They could be projecting their own fears onto your situation.
But your feelings and instincts matter, and you deserve the space to make a choice that aligns with your values and future goals.
If you’re feeling pressured, consider seeking support from a professional counselor, loved ones, a partner, or a pregnancy center like Ventura County Pregnancy Center.
Using support networks like these can help you process your emotions and explore your options without judgment. It’s essential to have a support system that listens to you and provides information tailored to your unique situation.
What Else Can I Do?
If you’re not ready to make a decision or feel pressured, here are several steps you can take to help you regain control and clarity:
- Take a Step Back: Politely let your friends know you need time to think. It’s okay to set boundaries and prioritize your feelings over others’ opinions.
- Educate Yourself: Research your options, including parenting, adoption, and abortion, to ensure you’re making an informed decision that aligns with your values and goals.
- Write Down Your Thoughts: Journaling can help you process emotions and clarify what truly matters to you.
- Practice Self-Care: Take time to focus on your mental and physical health. Go for a walk, enjoy a good meal, or engage in activities that help you feel grounded and calm.
- Ask Questions: Don’t hesitate to ask healthcare providers or pregnancy centers about any concerns or questions about your options. Knowledge is empowering.
- Visualize Your Future: Consider how each option might align with your long-term goals and how you see yourself moving forward.
Find Support and Resources
At Ventura County Pregnancy Center, we understand that facing an unplanned pregnancy is not easy. That’s why we’re here to offer free, confidential pregnancy services and support.
From pregnancy testing to options information, resources, and more, we’re committed to helping you make an informed decision that’s right for you. You don’t have to navigate this alone.
Contact us to schedule a free appointment today and find the support you deserve.