When an unplanned pregnancy catches you by surprise, emotions can run high for both you and your partner. If the person you care about is urging you to have an abortion, it’s natural to feel conflicted, anxious, or even alone. But the decision is yours and yours alone.
At Ventura County Pregnancy Center, our no-cost and confidential services are open to all. You can meet privately with a caring client advocate who will listen and help you explore every option, without pressure from anyone. Schedule an appointment today to begin finding clarity and support.
Your Right to Make the Decision
Your pregnancy decision will shape your life and future far more than anyone else’s. A partner’s fears, whether about finances, timing, or personal goals, may be real, but they do not outweigh your right to decide.
Take time to reflect on your own needs and values. Ask yourself:
- What do I want for my future?
- How would parenting, adoption, or abortion affect me emotionally and physically?
- What kind of support do I need right now?
Giving yourself space to answer these questions is not selfish—it’s necessary.
Setting Healthy Boundaries
It can be challenging to stand firm when someone close to you is vocal or insistent. You might say, “I hear your concerns, but I need to make this decision myself.” This keeps communication open while protecting your well-being.
If conversations become tense or one-sided, consider stepping back for a while. Protecting your emotional health is wise and can help you think clearly.
Pressure that escalates into threats, manipulation, or control is never acceptable. If you ever feel unsafe, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline (800-799-7233) for 24/7 confidential help. Everyone deserves respect and safety, especially during an unexpected pregnancy.
Explore All Your Options in a Safe Space
Accurate information and a supportive environment are critical when you feel pulled in different directions. At Ventura County Pregnancy Center, you can talk through every option—parenting, adoption, and abortion—with a trained client advocate who will respect your pace and privacy.
You do not have to face this situation alone or allow anyone to decide for you. Schedule a free and confidential appointment today to meet with us and receive the care and resources you deserve.
FAQ:
What if my partner threatens to leave if I don’t have an abortion?
Threats or ultimatums are a form of emotional coercion and are not part of a healthy relationship. Your safety and autonomy come first.
Can my partner legally force me to have an abortion?
No. In every state, the decision to continue or end a pregnancy belongs solely to the pregnant woman.
How can I stay calm when I feel overwhelmed?
Take breaks from stressful conversations, lean on trusted friends or family members, and consider speaking with an advocate at Ventura County Pregnancy Center.
Does Ventura County Pregnancy Center provide abortions?
No. We do not provide or refer for abortions. Our role is to offer free, confidential support and accurate information so you can make an informed, pressure-free decision that reflects your own values and future.